Ok, its Holly here again. Ian has given me permission to be his official sex biographer and share a little about his life before we met. We’ve both shared everything with each other- the good, the bad, the deliciously sexy and the…well…not so much. Here’s what I know about Ian:
Ian was a bit more sexually uninhibited when he was younger than I was. He had sex for the first time at the sweet young age of 15 with his first real girlfriend. As could be expected of two teenagers, the sex was pretty forgettable. What wasn’t forgettable was his steamy affair with his sexy high school Spanish teacher, two years later. Honestly, I was a little scandalized when I heard about this one, but Ian really isn’t prone to exaggerate or make things up and when he talks about Senorita Whoever, he gets this tiny little smile in his eyes that I absolutely love. So, while some may say she took advantage of him, I don’t think he’s any worse off for the experience.
For three more years Ian lived as a free man, dating and sleeping with a few girls and generally living the life of a healthy late-teenage man. Sadly, this freedom couldn’t last. The way Ian explains it, he just thought getting married was one of those things you had to do and being the incredibly responsible guy that he is, Ian found himself a wife. She was perfectly nice, from what I can tell, but was one of those people who see sex as a tool for making babies and not much else. There’s no need to go into the gory details, but a horribly large number of emasculating, almost sexless years later, the marriage ended, leaving Ian with some deep bruises to his psyche and years of pent-up sexual need.
Not long after the end of his marriage, Ian met a smart, sweet, sexy girl online who lived a state away. They struck up a friendship and this girl talked Ian back into life and into the world of the living. With her encouragement, he started looking into BDSM online. By learning about Domination, Ian was taking back his power and as his relationship with this girl deepened, he was rediscovering his own sexuality all over again. They never met in person, but Ian was closer with her than probably anyone else in his life to that point. She saw him down the road the recovery and gave him encouragement and advice as he began to enter into BDSM play. The mutual support they were able to give each other was what got Ian through some rough times, and speaking as his soon-t0-be-wife, I am forever grateful for what she did for him.
The path of BDSM was a fairly intense one for Ian at times. Eager to assert himself, he found another woman online who was interested in a Master/slave relationship and for three months or so, Ian got live out a fantasy of being a true Master. Predictable drama ended that experience and Ian found himself back online (Alt.com) looking for more than just a plaything. It wasn’t long after that we met online. He still had, and has, the desire to have some control, sexually and otherwise and that works out really well for me, because I really like to submit. It doesn’t always work that way though. We generally make decisions about everything together and even in bed, as we grow to trust one another more and more and share deeper and deeper sexual desires, we’ve discovered that we both like at least a little taste of both roles. Ian’s still the Dominant, and I like that. I think knowing he’s the Dominant one makes it all the more sexy when I fuck him in the ass with a strap-on (tee hee hee!).
Ian told me the second or third time I was with him that he didn’t plan to get married again unless he knew it would actually be forever, and he didn’t think that was ever going to happen. That’s why I knew he was pretty serious when he brought up the idea of our getting married about six months ago. Never having been married, this isn’t something I was going to go into lightly, but Ian is this crazy kind of amazing guy who you just want to fuck and cuddle and submit to and tease and kiss and love all at one, all the time. Sex is really important to both of us and I think (hope) that by exploring all these things together, and keeping that all-important honesty in our communication, we will have a lifetime of tender conversation, hot sex and good laughs ahead of us.
Ian and Holly Swing 